Every woman has an opinion on what makes a man sexy. So of course I have mine. It’s real simple. I like a humble, down to earth, intellectual man.I’m  more in to how a man carries himself than his physical looks. Some men are ok looking, but they have a swagger that’s unstoppable. Physically attractive men are nice but sometimes I find them just to be something to look at. I prefer smarts and intelligence. That’s what gets me sexually turned on the most. So if he can match physical and intellectual he is a keeper.

I like a man who thinks before he acts and practices self control. A man that prefers being with a woman than hanging with dudes. I never liked a flashy fool, someone who needs constant attention like he is in a popularity contest. I don’t date “gang members.” It really turns me off. Yes I will sleep with men who are a part of the in crowd but that’s about it. If they are flashy and superficial, it ends really quickly because I end up leaving them for someone else.

A self –sufficient man is always sexy. Independence is a must. I love a man that thinks for himself and makes his own decisions. I hate a mama’s boy or a guy who is too close with friends and family. I like my relationships to be private. I don’t like a man talking about our situation with other people. Really pisses me off! I like a man who stands out from the crowd and is a leader. I hate cliques. The shit is stupid and petty. I hate men who need approval from their friends. He has to have complete control over his thoughts. I prefer a don’t give a shit what you think attitude.

Also, I like for a man to control his emotions. I’m the woman here so I don’t need a dramatic bitch for a lover. I hate men who like to fuss with women. Men should know its a losing battle. You are never going to be right so let it go. It really does make you look like a bitch to go back and forth with a girl! I need someone who is caring and considerate with a really good heart. But, not some overly sweet wimp.  I don’t like to always be in control or bossy. The real me hates bossing a man around. It makes him look like a pussy. Last time a check I have one between my legs  and I’m not looking for another one.

Ambition and stability is important. He has to be goal orientated and driven. A money maker is all I will be with. Being me isn’t cheap and there is no need to play like it is. I like to travel and live nicely. Yes I have my own money but having his as well is not a bad thing.

A gentleman with manners gets me every time. Not some foul mouth ass hole that has no respect for women. I like a man to open the door and walk me to my car. It shows he has class and his mama raised him right. Men that call women derogatory names are disgusting. I don’t care how a woman acts or provokes anger; a man should still adhere to being a gentleman. It makes him look civilized and mature in the end. A real man waits to take his anger out in the bed room. That’s when he will punish your ass and make you climb the walls. You know pull that hair and smack that ass. That’s some dangerous shit!

I don’t mind a player as long he is a gentleman with it. I’m usually not with being one of a man’s many women but for a gentleman I just might make an exception. I can’t even smart talk or be nasty to a smooth operator. Hell even I respect his game.  And anytime he wants it he can get it! You know the type of  man that you try to get mad with and you show up to go off on his ass but you end up naked  and on your back. Those are the smooth, calm, gentlemen. My absolute favorite! I can be a real mean bitch but a smooth operator with a killer smile can make me melt. I’ll be like fine! Fuck it! Come over! I’m at his command. He can bring out the freak in me. I’ll be like sure I call one of my girls. Sharing is caring!

Now let’s get to the good part, the sex. He has to be good in bed! If I give him a chance to get between my legs, he better wear that shit out! I like a mixture of rough and smooth. A real man doesn’t worry about who you were with before him. He is just going to make sure he taps that ass so good that you will only think of him. That any man that comes after won’t even compare. See I’m not one to be easily tamed. I’m not big on monogamy unless it’s the right person.The right man will be a long dick stroker and a pussy eater. I like 5 hour sex. Yes damit! I said 5 hours. Not all the time, quickies are nice. But I like stamina and multiple orgasms.  Spontaneity is amazing. I like a man who will take the pussy anywhere and anytime. I like to have sex in the movies, restaurants, car  etc. Even just standing in the kitchen washing dishes and he sneaks up behind and fucks the shit out of me. If a man has the bedroom on lock, then his woman isn’t going anywhere. Romance has to be apart of the equation as well. He has to but effort and energy in making plans for romantic evenings. Not all the time but every once in  awhile is nice.

At the end of the day I’m just like any woman. However, I don’t wear my heart on my sleeve. I have been through too much shit for that. It takes a certain kind and I won’t settle for less. Honestly we don’t have to be in a commitment. But, he still has to meet my standards for even friendship. Sometimes I can act really butch and masculine. I get that it can be intimidating but that’s only to weak ass men. When a man has the qualities I like then I settle my crazy ass right down. Too bad I’ve yet to find these kind of men in South Florida.

One Night

So I was like u know what I want.

Seriously my interest are shallow with no deep intentions

My attitude cold and on target.

He replied I feel you.

But I’m a man with understanding of self.

I have nothing to prove.

I’m not insecure, so there is no reason to brag

I’m not boastful or

full of pride

the characteristics of a school boy past.

I make love  regardless if its a commitment or a short lived romance.

You will be a woman when with me

And I will treat u as such.

I expect so much more and you’ll never be anything less.

At that moment he elevated my interest.

My demeanor and conversation changing

Maturing again

I felt soft and beautiful

He continued

You don’t have to be mine tomorrow

And we don’t have to speak of the future

But when you open up to me

I want to feel like I’m the only man

and my name is the only ever whispered from your lips.

I want you to tell me its mine

And caress me like I’m your king

The deity in which you serve

And in return I will hold you like no other women ever exist. like u were made for only me

And I will appreciate every inch of your body

I want you to feel comfortable

Uninhibited and free

Your true self will be my secret

When the morning comes and we separate

You will think of me.

Desire me

I will be one of the best in your life.

And I will long for you

Awaiting the next time

Even though luv is not defined

By forever

Between us

Or monogamous

We still don’t have to sacrifice romance

It still could be something

beautiful every time we come together

As he spoke

Memories of my femininity

Returned

I felt

sophisticated and smooth

I felt like

even if for one night

I could just be a woman

With no boundaries

Or defense

No image protection

Or damage control of the heart

He was a man

And he expected so much more

That I could no longer accept anything less

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You want a good girl,
sweet and pure like the word virgin.
But I’m a woman.
I can’t promise purity from inexperience.
My heart
along with my body,
have experienced love and lost of love.
I’m proud of that.
I have gained something that is better than innocence.
I have wisdom and understanding of self.

I will not try to persuade you
by disguising my womanhood with girl like acts
or outlandish fairy tales hiding the truth.
I will not compromise my inner peace
and trade it in for adolescent insecurity
to make you feel like I’m yours.
I want you to be my man
and feel strong in that position.
At the same time,
I have to feel honored as a woman respectfully.

I can’t offer phrases like
I never or you are my first.
But I can guarantee that every word I whisper
is genuine and true.
I can’t go backwards to be your girl.
But I’m fully committed to
moving forward as your lady.

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I’ve talked about my precious J. R . (Jack Rabbit) in previous blogs, I was introduced to him when I was very young. It was a house warming gift for my first apartment. J is  still so good to be me after all these years, I felt I should dedicate an entire entry to him.  I’ve said before that my bedroom does not have the revolving door that is assumed. I’m kind of picky about sex. I’ve had my wild nights or moments but not like most think. I’ve decided to only give myself frequently to Jack. He knows my spots and he is sitting in my dresser draw waiting on me everyday I get home from work. Such a good boy!

Sometimes Jack and I like to have threesomes. Last weekend, you know the perfect W weekend, I brought Jack along to meet Mr. Chicago. They got along well. I decided while riding Chi-town to use Jack on my clitoris since that’s his specialty. Mr. Chicago got really excited as I started to scream because of the combination of vibration and penetration.  My goodness it’s like my soul literally left my body and floated out into the ocean. I swear I was speaking Swahili. Jack causes me to speak different languages and have convulsions; or, a sudden case of Tourette syndrome.  I yelled out shit, muthafucka, fuckty fuck fuck damn damn damn pirates of the Caribbean! The look on Mr. Chi’s face was priceless. He just laughed “Wtf? Damn girl you’re wild as hell!” But, all in all I think he enjoyed his self. I’ve even included Jack in on a lil girl on girl action. He and Janet are well acquainted. He’s made her croon a couple high octaves. Hell I didn’t know she could sing like that. Girly has quite a voice in the bedroom; oh, and on the beach around 12 a.m. too!  I also, enjoy a man to watch me pleasure myself or we watch each other masturbate. I have a Jack rabbit deluxe as well. That’s a rotating penis with a clit stimulator. Girl, it’s the best 139 dollars you’ll spend in your lifetime. Better and cheaper than the first pair of Manolo Blahnik Mary Janes I purchased; which are the holy grail for me!

Every woman should have a vibrator she can count on. I keep a year’s supply of AA rechargeable batteries. That’s all Mr. Rabbit requires to get by. The best boyfriend ever! He never talks back and he concentrates on the most important aspect of our relationship; making me cum! I’ve locked myself in on weekends so me and Jack could spend some much needed undisturbed quality time. Some might be embarrassed about sex toys, But it’s the safest most efficient sex you’ll ever have. And you can include them in your sex life with your companion. It enhances the climax for you and your partner.  But, it’s no reason for men to think that sex toys could replace the real thing. Or women shouldn’t think it’s something disgusting to hide. I’ve dated a guy who was jealous of my vibrator like some kind of weirdo. I told him that if he would handle his business then Jack wouldn’t have to pick up the slack! And, he could leave at anytime but this is Jack’s home and he is going no where! Needless to say that relationship didn’t last.

Jack has helped me through all my love loss woes. He is always there to comfort me.  Sometimes I wear him out and have to purchase his clone. But, its money well spent. He keeps a smile on my face and my bitchiness to a minimum. I’m a grown woman; sex, orgasms, and satisfaction is apart of maturity. I’m not one of these girls who like to fake it about sexual gratification like its not important! Bullshit! Damit I have to cum! I just like sex to be in my life without nonsense and frustration. And if I have to continue pleasing myself to have a peace of mind and a peaceful life, then so be it. I suggest all you ladies make a smart investment.

Some women love a big thick penis.For me, Yes it does feel good. The best is if the man has a smooth tasty big thick one that can get hard as a rock. That’s the most important but underestimated value I’m noticing. We always talk about a man size; however I haven’t heard a woman talk about how hard the man was. I love big dicks, but I an average size one that gets super hard is just as good. I’ve been with men who have a good 6 to 7 inches if that, but they get really firm causing me to have an outstanding orgasm.

I do know women who hate to have sex with a man that is more than 7 inches. Not me! Shit I like them big ones. I promise I’ll sit on it and make it disapear! You can do alot more when a man  is packing a few extra inches. He can L.D. you better from crazy postions. I like to be picked up with my legs around his waist. Or, I like to lay on my stomach with my legs closed. Both positions require length. At the same time, if a woman keeps in shape and has tight kegal muscles, a regular size  can put in major work!

If a man has good rhythm and technique then he ‘ll be a good lover no matter what size he is. It’s all about the chemistry you have with him and the knowledge he has about mind blowing sex. There are some big dick men who don’t get hard enough and don’t know what to do with all that meat. I’ve been there. What a waste! If a woman has found herself a champion who knows how to tap those walls leading straight to the Gspot, She will love that dick regardless.

I know everyone is wondering what happened this weekend. Finally a breath of fresh air, it was phenomenal. My long distance love and I met up at the W hotel Miami which was the perfect scene for the affair. We started with a late night dinner at Mr. Chow where we shared fantasies that we’d promised over the phone to only share when we saw each other.

What he told me  got me so hot and bothered, I couldn’t wait to continue the seduction at the Wall. The hot crowded club and the vodka caused our bodies to touch and rub all night. I decided I wasn’t going to wait until the man makes the first move like I usually do. I grabbed his hand and placed it between my legs as we bumped and grind on the dance floor. Then, I went in for the kiss. Damn, I like the aggressive me, something new.  I could feel that kiss in my knees which tells me of what was to come. We spent the last 5 songs in the most passionate lip lock.

Wet and hard, we continued into the elevator. Furthering my take control attitude, I unzipped his pants to see what he was working with. Yahtzee!  It definitely was time to get to the bed. As the elevator doors opened he picked my solid ass up and threw me over his shoulders. Once we were in the room, he turned on the music and  lowered the lights. He remembered our phones conversations about my need for romance; he lit the candles and had wine waiting. Good boy!

Feeling good and sexy, I pushed him down on to the bed and demanded “Watch me!” In my highest come fuck me heels, I turned up the music and put on the sexiest private performance . Stripping down out of my dress, I gave him a special lap dance. I can shake this ass!  Then, I made him stand up so that I could slowly remove all of his clothes; starting with his shirt, then sliding down on my knees to his removes his pants. I made sure to enjoy every inch of that gorgeous body, caressing his thighs against my face and using my tongue up and down his chest. Nice I must say!

The  sex that night was outstanding! We ended up on the balcony overlooking Miami Beach. But he remembered everything I shared with him during our long phone conversations, because the morning was even better. My favorite is to be surprised with love making in the morning.  I was comatose after the 2 a.m. session. However, I was awakened to him sliding deep inside me at the break of dawn. He was hitting all of my spots, I climaxed to his rhythm.  I wish I could wake up every morning like this. Starts the day off right.  Just when I thought it was over, he picked me up and carried me to the shower where it continued. Perfect!  The hot water and suds while he made love to me from behind was relaxing. Just what I needed. I like a man that talks dirty in my ear and moans when he cums.

As we stepped out the shower, breakfast arrived,Mimosas and strawberries. Damn dude listens. My girl and her good referrals. Again, I wasn’t going to wait for the man like I usually do. I dropped that towel covering me and laid back on the breakfast table in front of him, opened my legs and commanded him to “eat this!” The best oral sex of my life, shit!

I feel rejuvenated and calm this week. He texted me once he returned to Chicago, “I can still taste that good pussy” Again remembering how much I love dirty text messages!  Maybe this will be my last blog writing about him. Things are starting off amazing and I want it to stay that way. This is going to be a beautiful friendship. I can’t wait until our next visit.